Monday, January 01, 2007
and a happy new year to you!
Home is fairly boring. Paul's sick with something. Mary and I decided Costa Rica sounds great for next year's winter break. I've been knitting a scarf that has a lovely diamond pattern on it. I got a sewing machine for Christmas but I need some more supplies before I can let my creativity run wild. I think we average 2 movies a day here.
Happy early birthday to Hayley! I hope you have lots of exciting things planned.
This afternoon I hope to make final plans with my parents about visiting the fabulous Nebraska clan. Yesterday we took a trip to Davenport to make sure my dad could handle a full day out again (his last trip left him exhausted after just a few hours) and he's prepared for the drive now.
Umm... tomorrow I'm getting my hair cut shoulder length - that's around 6-8 inches off. Mary and I are heading to Madison then for a long weekend and wedding reception.
That's it for me. I want to hear about your exciting lives too!
P.S. I received an adult mad libs from a friend that I think would be enjoyable when I visit.
Thursday, December 21, 2006
Hayley, will you be my date?
Sat - 02/10/07
Head Automatica
Jack's Mannequin
The Audition
at
Rococo Theatre
Monday, December 18, 2006
End of the Year Musings
But, I aknowledge that it is good to at least think about these things to reflect on blessings and hard times so that you grow from them and don't make similar mistakes and don't take the good things for granted. So I'm not really writing this for any of you. If you want to keep reading, go ahead, but this is more for my own theraputic release.
So anyway, the blessings were pretty decent this year. Got a free vacation to LA and Las Vegas. Made it through another year as a homeowner with no major disasters. Got a bit of a promotion at work, and still manage to remain on speaking terms with the wife, which I think is a pretty good thing after three and a half years of marriage. We're much better than still speaking (for the record).
Not so much of a blessing, losing some relatives with others in the hospital or nursing homes, some stressful times with work and school.
2007 will be another interesting year. I'll finish grad school, maybe upgrade a car, maybe start talking about upgrading a house in the next couple years, and start the conversations on planning for other things that will eventually be coming.
Wonder what other trainwrecks, blessings and sad times 2007 will bring. Then again, if I knew, it wouldn't be a whole lot of an adventure and life would be pretty boring.
But I'm pretty lucky at the end of the day to come home to the gal I proposed to four years ago last wednesday, and still get to share everything with her.
So bring on 2007.
Microwave Peanut Brittle Recipe

Jules, I can't believe you've never had peanut brittle! This is fast, easy and foolproof if you read the directions correctly. ;) Unlike the stovetop versions, there is no need for a candy thermometer.
Ingredients:
1 c. Spanish peanuts (unsalted)
1 c. sugar
1/2 c. white corn syrup
1/8 tsp. salt
1 tsp. butter
1 tsp. vanilla extract
1 tsp. baking soda
Mix peanuts, sugar, corn syrup, and salt in a large glass bowl. Heat mixture on high for 4 minutes. Stir. Heat for 3 more minutes. Add vanilla and butter; stir. Heat for 1 minute, 15 seconds. (If you like sticky brittle, heat only 1 minute.) Stir in baking soda. When mixture gets foamy, immediately pour onto greased, foil-lined cookie sheet. Cool & break into pieces.
Thursday, December 14, 2006
A note about peanut brittle
*sigh* Lots of time and ingredients wasted last night. :(
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
my plans
Anyway, I'm SUPER excited. And I seriously want to go, even if I have to drive all by my lonesome.
Sunday, December 10, 2006
I Got In!!!!
Wednesday, December 06, 2006
Monday, December 04, 2006
Who Wants to Snuggle by the Fire?
My problem with this romance is that I have none. I have been visiting a lot of friends that I haven't seen in a while that lived in the same dorm as me last year. Most of them are a year younger than me. All the guys had those little boy crushes on me last year. I just found out that every single one of them has a steady girlfriend. This didn't bother me at first since I'm not crushing on any of them, but by the time I had listened to the "we're starting to get more serious" speeches, I realized I was the only one that didn't have a story to share. Even worse, was the looks on their faces when I said I haven't been dating anyone. Hello, as if I don't feel bad enough about myself, they had to send me the pity glance.
I haven't forgotten the reason for the season, but part of the holiday is about spending it with loved ones. Even though I have an amazing family, there's nothing like love from the opposite sex. I'd love to snuggle by the fire and bring a guy home to the parents. I know you'll all reply with the "give it time, you'll find him" speech, but do save your breath. I'll take your words for what they are worth, but my happiness in the meantime will waver. For now I'll settle by watching the love scenes in Christmas specials.
Exorcise the Scrooge Within
However, there a few things that I have such disdain for that I wonder if I'm a grumpy old Scrooge. I’m hoping that by confessing now, I can enjoy the rest of the season without getting annoyed. When you’re done reading, post yours and don't think about your Christmas anxieties for the rest of the month.
Dirty Santas. You know, those gift exchanges during which everyone draws a number, then the participants get to pick a present or steal someone else's? I’m always amazed that normal people turn into greedy asshats during this exercise, and I get embarrassed for the person who brings the present nobody wants.
Secret Santa and White Elephant exchanges. I think they cheapen the spirit of gift giving and contribute to the gross commercialism that Christmas has become. I know I’m in the minority. When I politely declined to participate in our office’s Secret Santa, people gave me the "You Scrooge!" look.
“Seasons Greetings” cards. It’s surprisingly hard to find Christmas cards that actually say Merry Christmas on them. I belong to a message board that discussed this very topic last week. Apparently, non-Christians prefer Seasons Greetings and Happy Holidays because Merry Christmas is “too Christian” and isn’t inclusive of everyone’s religious beliefs or lack thereof. Oh, the irony.
Stress. It’s a side of Christmas that I didn’t experience until a few years ago. I’m super worried about getting my cards done, baking goodies, and getting presents purchased and wrapped in time.
To offset all this negativity, I have another confession that will make ya’ll squeal with delight. I can’t wait to be a parent at Christmas. What could be better than being Santa Claus and reading “The Night Before Christmas” to Junior before tucking him into bed on Christmas Eve? Christmas is pure magic for the kids.
Sunday, December 03, 2006
To the Wisconsin Clan
Thursday, November 30, 2006
Thrusday Musings
Kansas City, here we come. Can't wait to sit out in a football game for 4 hours in 20-degree temperatures. Weather forecast right now is for 8-12 incehs of snow between no and midnight down there. It may be a fun drive.
My two stupid, waste of time, classes will be meeting for the last time on Monday and Tuesday next week. I have pepers due in both, and then a tkae home test due next Friday, then I am done. Whee. Two more semesters.
Is it possible to have Senior-itis if you are a grad student?
I wish other graduate majors were like the medical majors. I'd much rather be out there "doing things" for class instead of studying theory in a classroom.
I got a new cell phone. I think I am in love again.
Here is an SAT analogy for you. Shoes are to girls as _______ are to boys.
a) socks
b) technology toys
c) BBQ ribs
d) sports on tv
e) beer
f) all of the above
Don't you hate it when you sleep on your neck funny? It throws off my whole day.
Why are cats so scared of vacuums? I vacuum and the cat hides under the couch for two hours following. Why?
Tuesday, November 28, 2006
Monday, November 20, 2006
Saturday, November 18, 2006
Thursday, November 16, 2006
Thursday Musings
Sorry I didn't get to this earlier...had a grandparent in the hospital briefly, a load of homework and a bad headache last night. Also writing from class. Wireless internet rules. I am a bad role model
- Shoes. I don't get women in shoes. Guys just don't get into these things. We just want something that doesn't look stupid and is comfortable. We don't get shoes as a fashion statement, accessory or highlight of an outfit. Don't try to explain it to us. Don't expect us to eventually "get it" because we won't.
- That said, oh my god -- I just got the most comfortable pair of shoes. They are
my first pair of Sketchers called "comfort walkers" and I am in love. If I am to marry my new dishwasher, then these shoes will be the maid of honor. So soft, so comfortable, and in a style that looks OK for work and for casual. I am in love. - No bitching about classes this week. Too many papers. Glad I only have two semesters of this crap after this month.
- Markets are looking good for an end of year rally. Buckle, A&F and a few others all beat estimates, so that's super going into the holiday season as long as oil stays down. European emerging markets took a bath, though.
- Sesame seeds -- how worthless they are until you get one stuck in your teeth and then it cracks open. Talk about a flavor explosion
- If I were a senator, I woul dformulate a bill that makes it illegal for relatives and friends to ask for Christmas ideas before thanksgiving. I woudl also make it illegal to play Christmas music before this date, have store decorations or hang lights at homes. I have spoken.
Wednesday, November 15, 2006
Movie Magic
Trailer:
http://movies.yahoo.com/mv/mf/frame?theme=minfo&lid=wmv-300-p.1481640-172499,wmv-700-p.1481641-172499,wmv-1000-p.1481642-172499,wmv-56-p.1481638-172499,wmv-100-p.1481639-172499,wmv-28-p.1481638-172499&id=1808476050&f=1808476050&mspid=0&type=t
Tuesday, November 14, 2006
Monday, November 13, 2006
Sunday, November 12, 2006
Chefs' opinions needed
I'm trying to decide whether to put it on my Christmas list ...
Friday, November 10, 2006
travels?
Wednesday, November 08, 2006
Paul's take on the midterm elections?
From the Daily Show:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1FcZJqqA2AI
Monday, November 06, 2006
Monday Musings
- Why do toenails get so thick?
- Grad school still sucks, but in the "do-nothing" marketing class, the professor jsut gave up. Yeah....she was supposed to have a guest speaker nesxt week and forgot, so no class. The next week, we have a take home test and don't have to show for class. The following week is "optional group meeting time." Then we are into presentations and finals week. Whee -- jump through hoops and learn nothing new. Grad school. Boooo.
- I love trail mix.
- I make a very good Zach Morris.
- Ok, so doctors, nurses and pharmacists -- what makes ear wax? Seriously, what is that stuff?
- So I got a new parking pass as part of a promotion. I get to park right outside our building. Well, today was the secodn day I could use it and both times, I've walked three blocks to the old lot after work before I remember I get to park at my building now. Old habits are heard to kill I guess.
Peace out players.
Thursday, November 02, 2006
To quote Stephanie Judith Tanner ...
Is it just me, or are people becoming increasingly rude and inconsiderate? Earlier this week, Andy's aunt asked him if he could get her football tickets for Saturday. Thinking he was doing her a favor, he agreed. Today he found out that his aunt didn't want them, her friend did. A little annoying, but no big whoop.
Auntie said her friend would come by this evening to pick up the tickets since he lives in Lincoln and she doesn't. Andy has homecoming events all this week, so I agreed to stay home and play ticketbroker.
This dude and his 3-year-old daughter didn't show up until 9:50. Is it just me, or is really cheeky to assume it's okay to show up at a stranger's house that late? I wouldn't think of inconveniencing someone I don't even know that late in the evening. At 9:50 on a weeknight, I want to be showered, pajama-ed, and watching a Scrubs re-run, not running a collection service. Don't even get me started on the fact that the 3-year-old was toddling around with Daddy instead of sleeping. What the hell happened to bedtime? At her age, we were probably in bed by 7:30.
Thanks to e-mail and cell phones and instant messaging, there's this assumption that everyone should be accessible 24/7. It's made people lazy, rude, and irresponsible, which doesn't bode well for our future.
Monday, October 30, 2006
Monday Musings
I've made a decision. You know that set of friends Ashley and I always bitch about for ditching us, or putting us second. Well, I've decided this last weekend that this was the last straw and I'm going to try to talk to the guy about it this weekend while we're out with the guys. From the end of Ash & I, we consider the friendship pretty dead, so if I piss him off or offend him, nothing lost. But if I bring something up, maybe they will realize that they need to work to get our friendship back. At this point, there is nothing to lose and maybe a little something to gain back.
Japanese markets tanked over the weekend. Not sure what the emerging markets are going to do. Looks like real estate has officially gone bust. I have a few days off this week for vacation (I have banked too many hours and I lose them if I don't take them) so I'm going to research some nice index funds and probably an additional mutual fund to diversify our portfolio a bit....maybe go large cap?
I have decided I'm going to re-dedicate myself to my fitness routine. This summer, I was kick ass and only 5 lbs away from my target weight. Then I got lazy as school started again. Good news and bad news, at least with strength, not working out for three months, I have only lost about 20% of where I was at with weight and reps, and I've already got 10% of that back in a week.
Peace out players.
Friday, October 27, 2006
Old habits never die
I managed to do that pretty successfully for about four years, but in the last semester I’ve fallen back to my old ways. In college, I was one of those sickeningly hyper-involved/rah rah, yay university! people. I also was on the Dean's List and yadayadayada. I'm not saying this to brag. From my professors' point of view, I was the model student. But from my point of view, I was pretty miserable from trying to be "perfect."
I was so happy to graduate because I couldn't take it anymore. The "real world" looked so good in comparison to college. It was. I had a steady work schedule most of the year and I didn't join any clubs because I was burned out from being a do-gooder in high school and college.
All that changed this semester. I've started school again. My involvement in a certain volunteer group has become more than I can handle. People have asked me to serve on committees at work, and I've said yes. Add those things on top of being a married homeowner, and I have CAUTION: MAY DETONATE written all over me.
I can’t believe I'm in same place I was four years ago—stressed out, crabby, losing sleep, and wondering how I got myself into this mess. I swore that I'd learned from my mistakes in college and I wouldn't do that again.
I changed for a while, but at the end of the day, I guess I haven't changed that much. Where's the happy medium between being a slacker and being like my mother?
Tuesday, October 24, 2006
Influences
Ok, so.... Going to get a little deep since I haven't for a while. I've been thinking a lot about influences the last couple days. I had a really nice chat with my grandpa on Saturday night talking baseball. It's crazy, but I see more and more of myself in him, my dad and one of my uncles all the time.
And it really is amazing what great role models I've had. So maybe this is a love letter to them.
From my Grandma Washburn, I learned the value of education and heritage. She was a school teacher, and she had me all set to sset college on fire when I was like 6. Even though I lost her in 1994, she really had an impact on me in those area.
From my dad and Grandpa Washburn, I learned the family business -- bullshitting. Yup, being comfortable working a room, stepping out of my comfort zone and getting to know people. I only wish I was better at public speaking.
From my Grandma Smollen, Grandma-in-law and Grandpa-in-law, I learned what love really is. To see the way these three people take/took care of their spouses as a caregiver, even if it ran them down to the point where it practically killed them. That is the ultimate in sacrificial love.
From my Grandpa Smollen, I have learned work ethic. Here's a guy that worked it in the navy and on the blue-collar factory line of the Falstaff Brewry. It makes me sad that he is getting some form of dementia and doesn't remember a whole lot, but I choose to remember him as the guy that showed me the value of hard work and having pride in your performance.
And of course, Eddie Vedder, who's music with Peral Jam got me away from Paula Abdul and my Nintendo and started getting me out there.
It's amazing that you don't realize the events and people that are shaping your life as it happens. But in retrospect, it is always a lot of fun to look back.
Ok enough deep stuff. Back to the Asian markets and stupid observations.
Sunday, October 22, 2006
Box-office disappointment
Eh. The Producers did not live up to the hype. It was only marginally funny, the storyline plodded along, and the cinematography left a lot to be desired. So sorry, Hayley, for a disappointing Friday movie night.
On Saturday night, we decided to watch A Prairie Home Companion. This is somewhat embarrassing to admit, but I'm probably Garrison Keillor's only fan that doesn't live in a retirement community. Anyhoo. PHC bombed too, despite having a ton of big-name actors and actresses. Maybe Keillor's sense of humor translates better in writing than on the big screen?
Help me, kids. I watch a lot more movies during the colder months, and I need some recommendations for next weekend.
Thursday, October 19, 2006
Wednesday, October 18, 2006
Currently listening to
- When the Lights Go Down -- By Nic Carl, an old HS classmate of mine. You can download it off his myspace at http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=9154651 Its a mello song that is good for studying, reading or background to conversation. Sure to make you feel warm on a cold rainy day.
- The Alamo is No Place for Slow Dancing -- By Scene Aesthetic. http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=7435185. See above. Another very good rainy day song. Also a good break-up song.
- The Adventure -- Angels and Airwaves. Peppy, happy and well mixed. Takes the 90's grunge with 2000 punk and sprinkles in some 80's synth. A very good song to play first thing in the morning or the last song in your car before you get out of it. Puts a spring in yoru step.
Can you tell it is raining in Lincoln today?
Friday, October 13, 2006
Quick Birthday Summary
I went out to eat with Paul at a restaurant called cosi. quite tasty.
Then we went to Cold Stone and I bought three 1.5 pint containers of ice cream. Only a few people came over to my apartment last night, though, so I have a LOT of ice cream left. Yummy.
Went to my friend's to watch Gray's and ended up staying there until nearly midnight. A game of checkers with shot glasses was included.
When I got back last night, the guy from Illinois I met in Italy had left me a message pertaining to how come I found him on facebook back in the day (even though I was supposed to so he could send me pictures from the hostel). So I called him (still a little buzzed) and wondered why he sent me his AIM screenname. Needless to say, it's possible he likes me based on what he directly commented on. But he's shorter than me (pitiful, I know) so that'll never go anywhere.
And I've been eating ice cream since...
Snaps to Andy
On this lovely blog, Andy introduced us to Ok Go and "Boston" by Augustana. Thanks to his keen ability to tell what's going to become trendy in music and entertainment, we knew about this stuff about six months before the rest of the world. Thus, we are cooler because of him.
He got a promotion recently. He'll downplay it and say that he's good at his job because he knows how to bullshit, but I’ve seen him in action. Bullshitting wouldn’t cut it.
For the last week, he's been tearing the siding off our house. Andy and his dad are putting up the new siding today. If I were in charge of this project, I'd hire someone and be done with it because I wouldn't have the patience, the arm strength, or the knowledge to get it done without severely injuring myself or the house.
When I married Andy, I had no idea that he knew how to do plumbing, hang drywall, re-wire a fixture, and install new siding. Definitely a pleasant surprise. Girls, the handyman is highly underrated (unless you're mechanically inclined yourself, which I most definitely am not).
Life with him is never boring. When I first said that to a friend, Andy thought I was insulting him. Quite the opposite, dear. Who wouldn't want to be around someone who's constantly making you laugh or surprising you with some quirky bit of knowledge (or construction skills)?
Okay, now snap your fingers for Andy!
Monday, October 09, 2006
Monday Musings
- The Bears are 5-0
- The A's are in the ALCS
- The Yankees are not.
- Life in Andy's sporting world is good
- Note to self, Advil is the best medicine after a day of physical labor. Kindof makes me wish we still had the hot tub. Oh well, at least Cole has enjoyed it
- I am speaking to Lindzo again after a brief period of not speaking to her.
- Apple jolly Ranchers are the best
- Cell phone companies are the devil
- IT guys are strange
- I don't want to go to college today. It is a cold and rainy day and I just want to go home and sit by the fire -- which would probably upset Ashley and make a hige mess as we do not have a fireplace.
- OK, seriously, how long does it take a small Asian man to grade a test?
- I hired Hayley's roomate today foran intership. This should be fun.
peace out players
Saturday, October 07, 2006
Stop hiding and start living, with tequila
http://adweek.blogs.com/adfreak/2006/09/stop_hiding_and.html
Monday, October 02, 2006
Monday Musings - Slutting it up....
- So, my lovely sister-in-laws want to slut up my wife, huh? Well, I don't know how to comment on that without somehow getting into trouble one way or the other, or feeling like a hypocrite. Hmmm. Ashley is like a flower, we all know how beautiful she is, but you cannot force open her petals. She is her own worst critic, but I have been telling her for years that she has the goods -- she doesn't believe me. Good luck on your quest young ladies. I am anxious to see how it turns out for you. One thing I do know, Ash needs to remember how much attention she gets in her glittery maroon shirt from guys not named Andy. If she wants that sort of attention and self esteem boost, maybe you girls have something to work with?
- I hate my accounting professor with the white hot intensity of 1,000 suns. He went straight from undergrad all the way through his doctorate and never worked in the real world. Talk about the ivory tower. He has no concept for the part-time student. Those of us with lives can't get a 10-page paper assignment and turn it around in 48 hours, which is exactly what he expects us to do tomorrow. And his name is Dr. Wang, so you can imagine how hard it is to understand his lectures.
- Life is good -- the Chicago Bears are 4-0 and the Oakland A's open the playoffs on Tuesday in Minnesota. If only the old Huskers could get their stuff together.
- Got a promotion. Whee. Fun new exciting projects to work on, but feeling somewhat overwhelmed.
- Maybe I was just brought up different, but some people who claim to be friends are so inconsiderate. How can you make plans for months and months for something, confirm them two weeks ago, and then four days before the event, blow it off. I could never imagine doing that to people, especially friends. And then another friend who is in class with me had to proofread a group paper I did with another kid and just turn it in. And she just forgot. Seriously, how can you be that inconsiderate?
Peace out players.
Wednesday, September 27, 2006
The stork is making three deliveries in Lincoln next spring
Every time I get the notion that I might be ready soon, it lasts all of five minutes before I start hyperventilating because HOLY CRAP! that's a lot of responsibility and I like to sleep in on Saturday mornings. (I'm being somewhat flippant, but the point is, I'm not selfless enough to be a parent yet.)
In case you're worried that we'll never have kids, relax. We want them. Someday. But it's okay to be nervous, right?
Friday, September 22, 2006
Thursday, September 21, 2006
Thursday musings
Sunburn sucks. Peeling now. Eeeew. But I do have a nice tan going. Too bad it's been cold and raining all week and I have to wear long shirts. Bummer.
Sooo -- crazy stuff goign on at work. The #2 guy in my shop is getting the #1 CEO job at Purdue. Well, he's dropped the ball on so much stuff in the last month that even though he is leaving in a month, he may get fired before that. Crazy. And I have to keep my mouth shut, cause I may be in a position to benefit from all of this. On top of that, we have a board of director's meeting next friday. Crazy stuff indeed.
My wife is like waaaaaay cool. I spent like five days with her constantly traveling, working, shopping, playing, eating.....and I didn't even get sick of her. Did I mention it was a good vacation?
OK, so I could get into Grey's Anatomy.
Looks like the Fed is done raising interest rates. Load up on consumer staples like P&G and financials like JPM and WFC.
So, a UN "diplomat" thinkgs George W is the devil. What ever happened to diplomacy. The president or the US could respond, but that diplomat is from a country that doesn't have free speech. Ironic.
I am starting to enjoy my accounting class.
I am dissapointed by my marketing class.
Random thought -- I need to remember to grab two extra football tickets this weekend so Ash and Hayley can go.
I like rain.
I don't like peeling.
Peace out players.
Tuesday, September 19, 2006
This will take 2 seconds....
http://kevan.org/johari?name=hayley2004
:)
Monday, September 18, 2006
I'm baaaaack!
Speaking of needing to escape, I hate, hate, hate those stupid Blackberry PDAs. During my trip I was surrounded by people who would pick up their Crackberries every five minutes to check e-mail or return phone calls. For crying out loud, enjoy your $10 margarita and turn off your damn phone. I firmly believe that no one but God needs to be accessible 24/7.
Las Vegas was fabulous, fun and expensive. Holy cats, was it expensive. It was near impossible to order dinner for less than $50 a person. Good thing Andy’s office will be reimbursing most of our meal costs. I'm way appreciative of our low cost of living in the Midwest.
Los Angeles. Man, that city was a hellhole. There was graffiti and garbage everywhere.
Due to my Vegas junket, I missed a day of class. Unfortunately, it was the most important day of the semester because we have to write a paper based on a guest speaker's presentation. I gave my professor a digital recorder to capture the lecture, and apparently the sound quality is horrible. I thought I could remedy the situation by interviewing the guest speaker, a suggestion that my professor shot down immediately. She also doesn't want me to rely on someone's notes. I know this is partly my fault, but I don’t have a clue how I'll get this assignment done.
I'm so not into school right now. Remind me again why I'm doing this.
Sunday, September 17, 2006
Why must my immune system plot against me?
Well, tomorrow I have two big exams and today I'm stuck with nothing other than a migraine, which means that I'm nauseous and all I want to do is sleep. Good thing I'm a trooper and I'll study anyway. What good it'll do, I'm not sure.
Anyway, if any of you other productive students/workers have any tips on how to not be a stressed out/sick mess it would be greatly appreciated!
Friday, September 08, 2006
Facebook Follow-up, if you're interested
We really messed this one up. When we launched News Feed and Mini-Feed we were trying to provide you with a stream of information about your social world. Instead, we did a bad job of explaining what the new features were and an even worse job of giving you control of them. I'd like to try to correct those errors now.
When I made Facebook two years ago my goal was to help people understand what was going on in their world a little better. I wanted to create an environment where people could share whatever information they wanted, but also have control over whom they shared that information with. I think a lot of the success we've seen is because of these basic principles.
We made the site so that all of our members are a part of smaller networks like schools, companies or regions, so you can only see the profiles of people who are in your networks and your friends. We did this to make sure you could share information with the people you care about. This is the same reason we have built extensive privacy settings – to give you even more control over who you share your information with.
Somehow we missed this point with News Feed and Mini-Feed and we didn't build in the proper privacy controls right away. This was a big mistake on our part, and I'm sorry for it. But apologizing isn't enough. I wanted to make sure we did something about it, and quickly. So we have been coding nonstop for two days to get you better privacy controls. This new privacy page will allow you to choose which types of stories go into your Mini-Feed and your friends' News Feeds, and it also lists the type of actions Facebook will never let any other person know about. If you have more comments, please send them over.
This may sound silly, but I want to thank all of you who have written in and created groups and protested. Even though I wish I hadn't made so many of you angry, I am glad we got to hear you. And I am also glad that News Feed highlighted all these groups so people could find them and share their opinions with each other as well.
About a week ago I created a group called Free Flow of Information on the Internet, because that's what I believe in – helping people share information with the people they want to share it with. I'd encourage you to check it out to learn more about what guides those of us who make Facebook. Today (Friday, 9/8) at 4pm edt, I will be in that group with a bunch of people from Facebook, and we would love to discuss all of this with you. It would be great to see you there.
Thanks for taking the time to read this,
Mark
Wednesday, September 06, 2006
Mexican Elections
Tuesday, September 05, 2006
THE INEVITABLE DEATH OF facebook
Well I'm not waiting to find out. About a minute after I realized the current situation, I disabled my already stripped account. As it is, people have lost their ability to carry normal conversations now that instant messengers and online profiles exist. I had class all morning today, then when I get back two classmates start talking to me. I JUST SAW YOU ALL MORNING!
Monday, September 04, 2006
Cousin Central
This semester is really busy. A hadful of major home projects as well as one really really hard class. It is an accounting class, which isn't my forte' but 70% of your grade comes from participation and group work. Which is good, because our first homework assignment was groupwork and we have to analyze Enron's fiancial statements from 1996 to 2000 and show where they lied and how you could tell. Well shit -- if grad students can look at the financial statements and tell something is off, why the hell didn't soem professional financial analysts step up and say "excuse me, this is fishy?'
Anyway, I guess it is my turn. I mean seriously, in most of my other group classes, I end up in the lead -- probably because I don't trust most of the peopel I randomly get assigned to in groups. But honestly, this time the group is me, another marketing kid I am friends with and one kid who is a CPA whiz. So, maybe this is karma paying me back by helping me out and cost with this group for busting my ass with others.
I hate election years. I can't get through one show without mudslinging. Thank the lord for Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert.
I love football season. Except this year, Nebraska doesn' thave an off week until the third week in November. We want to take a trip to Minnesota, but its going to be hard to get away.
I lveo labor day. We should have three-day weekends every week.
Friday, September 01, 2006
Thursday, August 31, 2006
Warren, you fox!
That part is barely newsworthy compared to the bombshell dropped later in the article: Mr. B's new wife, Astrid, has lived with him since the 1970s. But Mr. B was actually married to his first wife, Susan, from 1952 until her death in 2004.
Say wha? The Oracle of Omaha, our humble hometown billionaire who still wears JC Penney suits, had a paramour? (I love that word, yet this is the first time I’ve had a real reason to use it.)
Wait, it gets better. Susan introduced him to Astrid and encouraged the relationship when she moved to San Francisco. The women were friends and both accompanied him to various personal and business events. Apparently, both women were supportive of this arrangement. Why Warren, you lucky dog, you!
I know it’s wrong to judge other people’s relationships because one never knows what negotiations and agreements a couple has made behind closed doors. But I cannot imagine, under any circumstances, introducing Andy to another woman and saying, “I’m moving away, my love, but let’s stay married. Let’s be friends. Let’s continue having sex. But go ahead, live with my friend and have sex with her, too!”
It’s not polygamy, but it’s awfully close. The ultra-rich are indeed different from the rest of us.
Monday, August 28, 2006
So I think my friend's girlfriend is insane
She has started her own office, and with all of her marketing, has decided to focus on convincing people of her opinion instead of just trying to woo people that believe in chiropractic care into her office -- despite that being the last thing she needs to spend her marketing dollars on.
She goes and gets adjusted daily by another chiropracter and has threatened to break up with my friend because he
I see this ending badly.
Strangled by my inbox
E-mail is becoming the biggest time suck for me. I get started on a project and realize I need to refer to a message someone sent me earlier, so I open my inbox to retrieve that message. In the process, I see a bunch of new messages helpfully highlighted in red and think I need to check those too ... 90 minutes later I've abandoned the original project because I'm too busy putting out the fires started by the five new messages I just HAD to check. I can only imagine how much worse it would be if I used my work address for personal messages.
Does anyone else have e-mail ADD? Because I do, and all those wonderful time management techniques I learned in college (like setting aside specific times for e-mail checking) have fallen by the wayside. E-mail is my addiction, my distraction, my lifeline. But I need to kick the habit ASAP because a) I'm getting projects started but having a hard time completing them and b) it's becoming a procrastination tool, which contributes to A.
As I typed that last sentence, my coworker informed me that there's an office-wide e-mail argument about our messy break room. Riveting. I've been away from my inbox for all of four minutes and I'm missing a major throwdown in office politics?
Monday, August 21, 2006
- Getting into the school routine has been nice for me. Catching up with old friends, meeting some new ones, and now that I live in an apartment I'm more disiplined with my studying!
- I have a quick question that is directed mainly towards Andy and Paul, since you are males and you probably have an explaination for this. When a girl FINALLY puts herself out there and gives you her number, how long will you wait around until you realize she's probably the coolest thing ever and call for a date? I'm starting to feel like a gomer for giving out the digits (which I don't normally do) but oh well, such is life.
- I'm enjoying the end of the summer weather so much. My roommate and I have been going running on some trails she found. We found one that is near a boy scout camp and it would be the perfect area to shoot a scary movie!
- What would your reaction be if your professor told you to practice your Anatomy homework on all your friends/boyfriends/etc.? To me it sounds like a hot pick-up line! (Andy this is probably where you poke your eyes out and pretend that you didn't see me write that.)
Monday, August 14, 2006
Cousin Central
Do not get old. Back in the day, I could waterski and swim and party and kneeboard all day. Well, I just had a weekend out at Lake Okiboji in Iowa and it was an awesome time. Got to sit around for three days and just chill.
Waterskiing -- Good
Catching up with old college friends -- Good
Beer -- Good
Boating and swimming -- Good
All-night poker and pitch -- Good
BBQ and Steaks -- Good
The hangover of sleep deprivation and sore muscles (as sore as I've been in two or three years) as you head in to work on Monday -- NOT SO GOOD.
But man, what a killer weekend. Its also funny how our poker talk has switched from chicks and drinking stories to talk about personal finance, home equity lines, theology and child-rearing philosophy.
I'd like to throw out an official suggestion to the group. Instead of meeting in Des Moines in the mittle of winter, we should really ocnsider Okiboji each summer. It's 4 hours from Lincoln and about 5 hours from Cuba City. Just a thought -- lots more to do and we coudl get a giant cabin all togeher with seperate bedrooms and the like for much cheaper than the AmericInn and we're on a lake for the love of Pete. Parents can sit up and play cards all they want, and we can zip around on Jet Skis, swim, hit the bars, cruise for ladies to set up with Cole, etc...
Just a thought.
Peace out players -- I need Advil!
Tuesday, August 08, 2006
A Plethora of School Supplies
School shopping has been a much looked forward to event every year since Kindergarten, but this year, it has reached an all-time high. As much as college scares me right now, it also excites me, partly because of all the fun school supplies I get to pick out. This year, I am not limited to bright notebooks, character-clad folders, and sweet new pens; a whole plethora of supplies has been added to my cart. A brand new comfortor, white background splashed with pink, purple, lime, and teal polka dots; fluffy towels in a rainbow of colors -- pink, yellow, lime, and deep teal (thanks to graduation guests); new pajama shorts in a seventies-ish paisly pattern to match with an already owned rainbow cami; a TV; and to put it to maximum use, a DVD/VCR combo. Not to mention the items I haven't bought yet. A few including: a bath robe, pillows, shower caddy, desk organizers, and a fan since my dorm has NO AIR CONDITIONING (my own fault, by the way, as I could have chosen an all-girls dorm WITH air conditioning).
But like I said, college DOES scare me too. Right now I'm excited about all of the new things I'm getting, but I know as my move-in day (August 26th) draws nearer, I will probably get really nervous. I'm sure crying will be a companion for this nervousness, but I will hop over that toadstool when I come to it. Anyway, maybe I should get to bed now that I've bored you with my back-t0-school supplies.
Monday, August 07, 2006
Steadily climbing to the top of the hill ...
Twenty-five has been a landmark year for me. Maybe it's because I graduated from college earlier than most of my friends, but I spent my early 20s feeling like an overgrown kid who just happened to be doing grown-up things. I don't know why, but that feeling has gone away in the past year. It's nice.
I want to play hooky on the afternoon of my birthday. I have vacation days to use, so why do I feel guilty about that?
Monday Musings
Friday, August 04, 2006
Riding a tidal wave of emotions
I've written several unpublished blogs this week. Only one will actually get posted someday.
I can't share all the details here because it's about some confidential work stuff, but let's just say it's been a bizarre week. I'd unwind with a glass of wine after work, but I had WAAAAAAY too much vino on Saturday night. That's another story, but I fear ya'll would think less of me if I told it. :)
Wednesday, August 02, 2006
Cousin Central
There is doughnut of rain around us and we get none. Sad.
Big day for the asian markets. With the gas prices what they are, the fact that the Asian rim is still so strong is a good sign that the global economy will continue to expand, despite the outbreak of world war III. Also means gas will stay expensive for a long time.
I hate allergies.
I hate lawn grubs even more. Grrrrr.
Lindsay, checked on your computer and have an update for you. Not good news. But not horrible news either.
Monday, July 31, 2006
- Every wonder why you can't sneeze and pee at the same time? Smoething tells your brain to stop peeing because you have to sneeze.
- The cat has the squirts. Of course, if yo ugave me nothign but the eqivalent of fish and beef flavored oat bran for three meals a day, my bowels would be cranky too.
- I dont' know why this is so funny, but I laughed my ass off at this. it is an angry german kid waiting for his computer to load a video game. http://www.break.com/index/angry_german_kid_with_subtitles.html
- New band: The Audition. Check them out.
- Hayley -- what night do you want me to come over and hammer your picture hangers and looksie at your computer and so Ash can swim again?
- Lindzo -- what si the model number of the computer you are looking at?
- Cole -- ah, who am I kidding. Cole doesn't read this.
Thursday, July 27, 2006
Long story short, I feel a lot of responsibility in our family. As the oldest in the Nebraska-Wisconsin branches, I know that I have recently experienced and felt a lot of the things you are all going through or will in the next 10 years. I had a lot of not-so-hot emotional times (even if I keep it inside) and this whole college-to-real-world adventure we call life can really get off track fast.
I nearly made some mistakes that would have changed my entire life -- and I don't want you kids depressed or sad or emotionally unstable because your parents couldn't talk to you in your own terms.
What I'm getting at is that I want you all to still make mistakes and learn from them -- but with the proper mindset that will save you a lot of sleepless nights and get you through to the next steps with your mental health and happiness intact.
So this novel has two parts. Chapter 1 is Happiness. Chapter 2 is choices and destiny. Chapter 1 today.
I've been thinking a lot about choices, destiny, and the like. See, two things sparked this all -- one was an e-mail from an old college classmate that hit it big, and the other was my 10 year reunion.
You see, the old college classmate is now a marketing vice president at Verizon and has been in national commercials, been moved four times and is pulling down crazy awesome money. But for as well as she is doing, the only thing she can talk about is how sad and lonely she is to not have any friends, no man and be working 12-hour, 6-week days. She is the definition of what they tell you you can achieve in college if you work your butt off. That's the set up. See, I regularly kicked her ass in assignments and when we competed directly for clients in some advertising classes, my team was 4-1 against hers. So it makes me wonder could I have been her -- which further got me to thinking. Would I even want to be her?
The second step was the opposite direction of a gal at my 10-year reunion that was absolutely brilliant and gave up a promising academic career to marry young and be a stay-at-home mom. She had the same problem though -- regret. Regret that she gave up her career and may never get back into the field she studied. She was not happy either.
See, I've been thinking "is the grass always greener for some folks?" How do you know what success is and when you know if you've "made it?" Well, what I have come to realize is that there is no universal definition. The New York executive and the young mother have it all in completely different ways, but neither of them is happy.
Where am I going with all of this? Well, if you know me, I have always tried to define myself in my own terms and not by comparison or contrast. It breaks my heart to see people with lives that others would kill for, only to not be happy.
So I think I have reflected plenty on this in the last two weeks and concluded that success is really a mindset and an internal definition, not how others define you.
I have an awesome wife, a job I love most of the time, I get to see family and friends all of the time and I have my colleague's respect at work and in my profession. So what if I'm making a fraction of other classmates that I know I was better than. I have something far more valuable. I have found my definition of success, and I'm completely happy with who I am and my place in this world. They have money and families because somebody told them that was what success is. But since that was not their own definition, they still long for other things.
Here's where this comes full circle from what I posted to Lindsay a few weeks back....
When you have a 10-year reunion, it's easy to start playing the compare and impress game. But my 10-year reunion was nothing like. Most of us there were just happy to hook up again, and there wasn't the "I’m better than you" show that we had at the 5 year. Maybe there is an enlightenment that happens around age 28. If there is a midlife and quarter life crisis of identity, perhaps 28-ish is the grand enlightenment of self-realization
So to you youngins, let me tell you that it does get better. The uncertainty melts away, you finally discover your true self and the things that make you happy. You find your new sense of a home and to be happy, you need to find your own definition of success and pursue that -- not the definition that society, professors, parents or classmates throw on you -- or you will never feel that happiness.
For me, the simplest definition I have found for success is "knowing that one person out there sleeps better at night because you are alive." That right there, combined with the mentality to not compare myself to others has completely changed my life.
Tuesday, July 25, 2006
Friday, July 21, 2006
Our darling Lindsey sent us a homemade anniversary card that brought tears to my eyes ... from laughing, that is.
The front had this lovely message: I hope your love lingers on ...
And the inside said: Like a big smelly FART! Happy Anniversary! Love, Linzo
Copyright 2006 by Arts Farts
Big props to you, sister dear. I was in a foul mood when I got home from work yesterday, but that cheered me up instantly.
Wednesday, July 19, 2006
So last night was my friend Chase's 22nd birthday. (He's the one that is in seminary to become a priest by the way.) I wanted him to have a good birthday so I invited him over and I was planning to make him a surprise supper. My roommate Shannon was my special helper too. So after my class in the afternoon I rushed home to play Betty Crocker before work. I wanted to make Chase a delicious chocolate-cherry two tier cake. So I mixed up my batter and popped it in my pans and let it do it's thing. Well, when they were finally done, I was pressed for time because I had to be to work in half an hour and it takes me about fifteen to get there. Anyway I went to dump cake tier #1 out and it crumbled into a hot, gooey chocolate-cherry mess. I was frazzled but decided it would be okay and I'd just have one little round cake instead. (The rest is in the freezer waiting to be used with ice cream or something.) So when I got back from work I grilled some lemon pepper chicken. This was risky because I've only grilled one other time so I was nervous. But it turned out great! We melted mozzerella cheese on top and served it on a bed of fetticini alfreado and had peas and a tossed salad on the side. All in all it was a great meal. Afterwards we were all talking and not to my surprise we all discovered that our lives are going in directions that we are unsure of or aren't aware of yet. I do feel bad for Chase though because his life decision is much more complex than Shannon and mine's are. He's not sure if seminary is what he wants to do and so in a matter of four hours we managed to consule each other and have a great birthday. Now stop Ashley and Andy. I know what you're thinking. I made him a special supper FOR HIS BIRTHDAY ONLY. And NO HE ISN'T GOING TO LEAVE THE SEMINARY FOR ME.
Today I took my first essay form test since high school. I was so nervous about it that I woke up at 6:00 this morning and studied and did practice tests until my class started at 1:00 this afternoon. That's pretty hard core. But I think I can see why people like essay tests better. At least you can get partial credit unlike all the stupid bubble-tests I take that it is either right or wrong. Anyway I hope it went well especially after all the hard work I put in.
The last thing I have to say is probably trivial but it has been building inside of me and I'd like to get it out. I really enjoy my job as a whole. Physical therapy isn't my alley exactly, but it is still interesting. Well one of my bosses is continuously cranky and basically tells people how much she hates to work. I find this funny because she has to be making quite a nice bit of dough, but from what I can evaluate I don't think she's at a happy time in her life. Sad day for her. But I worked over 12 hours this weekend at the Cornhusker State Games, which is an amateur sporting event that takes place once a year in Lincoln. Well I got volunteered by my boss to work as "medical personnel" at the youth baseball and open swimming events. I got excited until after I'd worked those 12 hours to only sit out in the 90+ degree heat and making only two ice bags. I mean I'm sure my time was appreciated but I felt that my weekend could've been spent doing something more productive. Anyway my boss that volunteered me has yet to mention or thank me for my efforts. I don't expect to get a thank you, but she hasn't once showed any sort of liking towards me. I'm starting to think I'm a bad person or something. Anyway, that is my gripe for the day.
I wrote another novel on Monday and then a faulty internet connection erased my masterpiece and I don't want to really rehash that all right now. So apologies for no monday musings. To make it up for you, please sheck out the song "the alamo is no place for dancing" by the Scene Aesthetic: http://www.purevolume.com/thesceneaesthetic
That and I have a mosquito bite on my cheek.
Tuesday, July 18, 2006
Sunday, July 16, 2006
Friday, July 14, 2006
Mary left shortly after 2am this morning because of (what I presume) was a call to watch the liver transplant. Now, as she left in a short time, she failed to shut off her alarm. So at 5am I was woken from my dream (in which a ringing alarm fit into the setting) and had to get out of bed to shut it off. After 10 minutes of continuously sitting up then collapsing back into my pillow, I accepted defeat and got up for the day.
I made myself some ego wheat waffles that I topped with chocolate chips. While eating, I played domestic housewife and began busying myself around the kitchen. I made pumpkin bread. Then cut up the head of cauliflower (because it inevitably goes bad as even I am too lazy to cut vegetables when I'm really hungry). After I brush teeth, I'll probably do a little vacuuming then file away my finance papers I didn't get to last night.
Then I'll leave early for work so I can return Mary's library books, buy a sailing book, return my library books, and exchange the cracked juice pitcher at Target. All the while I will be praying my girls have mercy on this tired soul today - 9.5 hours with them yesterday almost did me over. I resorted to having them play a game in which the goal was to fall asleep first. No one won, but that was only because I couldn't play. Because if I played, I would refuse to wake up. Because yesterday I also had an initial 5am wakeup. Only since today I actually got up then, I know it's going to be a long day for as long as I stay awake...
Tuesday, July 11, 2006
- I’m eating strange meals and watching Friends during supper.
- I’ve watched The Devil Wears Prada and two Sex and the City episodes … and it’s only Tuesday morning. :)
- I’m taking the final step in the lengthy process of transforming the hallway bathroom from Homage to the Early ‘90s to modern chic: painting the vanity and medicine cabinet white. So far, I’ve sanded everything, removed the doors and hinges, and put on the first coat of primer.
- Unfinished projects make me uneasy, especially in areas that are supposed to be my sanctuary, so I moved my grooming products into Andy’s bathroom for a few days. His shower, which normally contains a bar of Irish Spring, a bottle of shampoo, and a body wash (for really special occasions), is now littered with potions that have names like mango mandarin, raspberry almond, and green tea & ginger. Heh. It’s funny to see signs of femininity in a room that’s decidedly male.
- I’ve been journaling a lot. It’s good for my mental health; I need to do this more often.
I miss Andy. But once in awhile, it’s good to remind myself that I’m capable of unhinging doors and using power tools without help. And sometimes, it’s good for a couple to spend a week or two apart. The separation tends to make you feel like you’re falling in love all over again. The absence of our daily routine makes me appreciate our little rituals even more. To an outsider, I’m sure they seem boring and mundane. But to us, they’re evidence of the life we’ve chosen together. That’s your awwwww moment of the day.
Besides, I’m sure Andy is looking forward to nightly burrito and fish buffets when I’m in Nashville later this month.
Wednesday, July 05, 2006
- I know it's Wednesday, but after the holiday, it feels like a Monday. Back off.
- Cole is single. And happy again might I add. She broke it off with him, but he comes out brilliantly. He didn't have to hurt her by being the jerk, he is out of a bad relationship, and as chipper as I've seen him in a long time. It sucks to lose your first love, but it is good to quit before you've put multiple years' time and emotion into it.
- Talk about following my own piece of advice -- I get an e-mail today from a fellow classmate and intern. She is massively successful and at 27 is a vice-president at Verizon and has a staff of 40, and was in a national commercial that is starting to air. Very hard not to compare myself to her, especially since I regularly kicked her ass in classes and on projects. She's making big bucks and is living just outside NYC. But I also detect some loneliness and sadness in her e-mail. Even though she has much success and money, I still consider myself much wealthier -- just in different ways and I wouldn't trade that for anything.
- Saw a cat brawl this morning. Cool.
- Emerging markets look to be where it will be as long as commodity prices stay high. I'm a little puzzled why the energy markets have not rallied despite the gas price spike.
- I like the smell of fireworks. Nothing like celebrating America by blowing a part of it up with Chinese technology.
- The North Koreans are crazy.
- Am I the only one that thinks this Ken Lay thing was suicide. You suddenly have a heart attack right before you are supposed to start serving life in prison?
- Wisconsin cousins, when Hayley turns 21, get ready to host us up there. Maybe fall of 2007?
Monday, July 03, 2006
As for Paul - he's working back home and the dialup internet connection honestly can't handle this site well.
And a summary of what I've been up to lately:.. I'm still nannying for two girls during the week. They're so much better this year than last. We've had a lot of fun every day but maybe two so far, but those were because their parents kept them up to late over a weekend.
I sail whenever I have a free few hours. This past weekend I earned three more ratings (a rating allows you to take a given boat out in either light or heavy winds, depending on the level tested at). So I now have unlimited access to three boat fleets and the longboard windsurfers in the club. My body still hurts from 6 hours in 25 mph wind on Saturday, but it was so much fun I don't care. Plus, the latest boat I got rated on can hold 6 people, so now I can take out friends (and family) whenever I want for a little joy riding (did I mention it has room for coolers too?).
Then I used my club connections to get Mary and I a ride on one of the keelboats last night, that we sailed across the lake to watch the big "Rhythm and Booms" firework show with orchestra. Aside from the fact that we didn't get back to shore until after 1, it was an awesome evening.
Wednesday, June 28, 2006
1) A tribute of advice to Lindsay on her 18th birthday, and
2) Advice I would give to myself as a 28 year old if I ran into myself as an 18-year-old .
Therefore, I will title this Blog: Ten Years Later -- What I wished I had known then...
Fellow bloggers, feel free to add your own advice. But Lindzo, try to carry this with you and talk to me, the cousins or any of your siblings about this stuff. You are phenominally lucky because you can learn and live better as a result of all the mistakes we have made. So off we go...
Ladie-friggin da. So you're 18, the second to last magic age before 21 when your birthdays become relatively meaningless until you start to get the senior citizen discount at restaurants and movies. So what does 18 mean legally in the state of Nebraska? Well, unless you are planning to live a hedonistic life, not too much.
- You can buy tobacco. Don't do it. All my friends that started smoking or chewing are still doing it, and the habbit has cost them about $6,500 over the last 10 years, not to mention the health problems later in life and expensive health insurance.
- You can buy lottery tickets. Don't do it. Gambling is a voluntary tax on the stupid. You have a better shot of winning American Idol than winning the lottery.
- You can vote. Do it. Register, and educate yourself on all of the issues. One vote may not mean much, but beggn an active citizen and knowing what these elected people stand for is extremely important to you rmental health.
- You are still a minor. That's right. In the State of Nebraska, you are still legally a child until you turn 19. So go out and commit some felonies, run up credit card debt, sign a lot of contracts, and then default on it all because you legally are still a child that can't sign contracts. Don't really do that stuff by the way - becuase you can still be tried as an adult and get the electric chair.
- If you have a penis, you have to register for the draft. Which is interesting on many levels socially with all of the gender equality advances over the last few decades, but I won't go there. If you were a guy, you are involuntarily registered to kill, fight and die for your country agaisnt your will, but you are not yet responsible enough to have a sip of beer according to the law. That's messed up.
Thats' the legal stuff, but here's the stuff I would really tell myself if I had it all to go back and do it over again.
- Work less and play more. After college, you'll have to work more and play less, so live it up now. Still work to pay bills and all that jazz so you don't have a ton of debt after college, but enjoy being irresponsible for a few more years. That said, take internships. They will get you a good first job.
- Avoid credit cards. Get one and buy gas to pay it off every month. But DO NOT use it for more than that. Ever. Unless you are trapped in Tunisia or something.
- Don't over-program in college. Clubs and activities are fun, and I've seen it 100 times that people get too involved and can't do anything well. After a year or two, whittle it down to a small handful of things you care most about and get really involved with them. It will look better on your resume too, you'll be less stressed and happier.
- Your high school friends will move on. With the exception of 2-3 kids, most high school friends will ditch you at college or shortly thereafter if they haven't already. Don't spend your first two years of college trying to keep that gang together. Go out and meet new people. HS friends will move on and there's nothing you can do about it. Don't get ofended. Also, at least one high school person you got along with so-so will likely become a close friend during college. I don't know why this happens, but it does.
- Meet as diverse a group of people as you can. College firends from Chicago, Alaska and California can make weekend or spring break trips much cheaper, and it helps you realize the wonders of the world outside of Nebraska. It also helps to have diverse friends that have experienced a lot and can help you through tough times. You will make some of your best friends in college, and you will lean on these peopel more than any other friends you have had.
- Don't get any thing perminant in the next ten years. No police records, tattoos, STDs or babies. My dad gave me that advice the day he dropped me off for college and it served me well. Piercigns are OK -- just don't go too crazy. They can always come out when you grow up.
- Rebel. Try a stupid haircut or dressing different. Or travel to a place you've never been just because. Dye your hair or do something different than the norm. College is about counter-culture, so find yoruself. Just dont' go overboard or end up Goth.
- You are about to go through the biggest personality and emotional change of your life in the next year. You will become independant, make your own rules, set your own curfews, manage your own time and have more freedom than you ever had before. Journal or be sure to step back from everything once a month, if not more, to evalute the person you are becomming and make sure you still like who that is. I know that after a year of college, I woke up one morning and did not like the person I had become and it took quite a bit of time for me to get my life back and be who I wanted to be.
- Guess what. Chip is going to go through the same thing, an dprobably worse -- guys tend to mature even later so it may take even longer. Make sure you still like or love the person he becomes. You cannot change or control his growth, and he cannot change or control yours. But constantly evaluate and make note of his growth and the growth of your relationship. Year one of college is a make or break year for HS relationships. What you have now will be much different this time next year. It may be better, it may be worse. Whatever you do, don't stay with him if it starts to flounder. THIS WAS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE I HAVE EVER MADE. Don't be afraid to take breaks (the best thing Ash and I ever did), or break it off all together. Lindzo, you are a catch and Chip is damn lucky to even have you, even if you think it is the other way around. And if he get's to college, would rather just sit in his dorm room, becomes a total jerk, and his eye starts to wander to other college babes, don't hesitate to kick his ass to the curb. There are plenty of other fish out there. I saw all the signs with my high school grilfriend and wasted two years of college trying to maintain a relationship with a girl that had become a terrible self-centered cheater who was a shadow of who I first started dating.
- Look out for yourself. Professors don't care if you succeed or fail. Roomates don't care if you succeed or fail. Your friends can't help you with debt. Even though it's good to be selfless, college is a time to improve yourself and set things up for the rest of your life and don't lose sight of that. Look out for yourself, becuase nobody else will on that campus.
- Learn as much about personal finance as you can. In a few years, you will have a salary, insurance, car payments, credit cards, etc. After your career training, handling of your own assets is the most important thing to learn about in the next few years. Do it well, and life seems easy at times. Make a ton of mistakes and it will haunt you personally and anybody you marry for the next 10 years.
- Don't try to keep up with the Joneses. I lost a lot of sleep trying to be a better person, get better grades or be more involved than my academic rivals. College is the first time you learn that no matter how good at something you are, there is always someone smarter, better looking, more charming, or wealthier than you. Be happy with being your own personal best and do not compare yourself to others because you will always lose. Always. This the hardest things for me to learn, but when I was finally able to reach this level of enlightenment, it was the second best discovery of my life -- after discovering your sister at a board meeting. I have friends my age that are still trying to have the nicest car, biggest house, and that type of constant comparison is takign a toll on her marriage and her friendships -- see Ash's previous post.
- Don't forget your family. It is very easy for you to get lost in the shuffle of self-discovery and newness that the next few years will bring. You will forget about your family support group from time to time, and may even move family down the priority list. Everybody does it and it's OK to some degree as long as it isn't long lasting. Everybody experiences this in a different manner -- but just remember these people will be your support group and help out no matter what goes right or wrong over the next 10 year. And guess what, they are all looking forward to you becoming an adult and having adult relationships with you. Your siblings will treat you differently, your parents will treat you differently. It's an interesting time, but we're all looking forward to having another lifelong adult friend.
- This one may surprise you -- Question your faith and the existance of God. Stay up late talking about theology and question everything with your new found independence. True faith comes from accepting soemthing on your own, not because your family forced it on you. When I was able to rationalize and find my spiritual identity on my own, it took on a whole new meaning for me.
- Make the discovery that you will learn just as much outside of class than you do in class in college. Your education lasts long after those bells ring everyday, be sure that your eyes are open at all times.
- Read as much as you can. Yes, you will be required to read for classes. A lot. But read other stuff. Fiction, non-fiction, whatever. But keep your mind active at all times.
- If you drink, drink responsibly. Never get to the point where you are out of control, unless you are completely surrounded by people you trust. I never drank to the point of blacking out, but still drank. Probably too much. Never get that bad -- mailnly because of the next two points.
- Avoid peer pressure. Do something because you want to do it.
- Do not trust guys. I could go into 1,000 reasons for this, but I know for a fact that there is one main motivation in almost every college guy and 99% of the time, this drives their actions. The cunning young lady can use this to her advantage, but this will bit you on the ass later on.
- You will have a quarter-life crisis where everything seems to be all wrong. It's OK. It will pass.
- You will want to change your major at least twice. That's normal. If you do, make sure it is for the right reasons.
- Don't take yoruself too seriously.
So that's a start.
Ash and I are extremely proud of you and you are standing on the edge of a cliff right now looking out at a very big world. As you jump off, enjoy the rush -- just make sure that you realize there is a lot of life after you open your parachutte and land, but that the next few years are a hell of a ride that will have lots of ups and downs.
Have fun discovering the world outside the clutches your parents, and we'll be there if you need us.
Happy 18th Birthday.
Monday, June 26, 2006
After reading this post, in combination with what I posted Thursday, ya'll probably are going to think I'm full of gloom-and-doom. I'm really not, but this is such an excellent place to get feedback that I can't help myself from venting.
How do you know when a friendship is over for good?
I've had a friendship that's really been struggling for the last 12 to 18 months. A few weeks ago, after a particularly nice evening with this friend, I told myself that I was going to let go of the resentment I had toward her and try to resurrect our friendship. Today, I received an e-mail from her that is making me second-guess my decision to extend the olive branch. I feel like she's interested in being friends for a specific purpose only, and I'm not cool with that. I refuse to let someone use me.
Maybe having a conversation to clear the air would help. But honestly, I'm having a tough time figuring out how to be diplomatic and cool-headed when I'm pretty damn angry. My pot of anger has boiled over, so to speak. I've also come to the conclusion that maybe we don't even have a friendship to save anymore. If that's true, how sad.
I guess if I've learned anything from this mess, it's that I should've confronted her the first time she hurt me. Interestingly enough, that happened 4th of July weekend last year. I didn't do anything because I thought it was an isolated incident that was the result of poor communication. Unfortunately, that one incident has snowballed into several, and my hurt has only intensified.
In this situation, what does "being the bigger person" mean? Confronting her? Forgiving her and moving on? I'm at a loss. We have a lot of mutual friends, so I don't want to have a big, awkward falling out that makes everyone uncomfortable.
I'm confuzzled. I haven't faced a situation like this since high school. I know how immature I was then, so I don't think that's a great example of how to conduct myself. :)
Thursday, June 22, 2006
I'm scared s*&tless. Now that I've been out of school four years, I don't miss taking tests, writing papers, and studying. My priorities have changed a lot since graduation. Do I even have the ability to buckle down and study anymore? What happens when I get a -5,872 on the GRE because I haven't taken a math class since 1998? Could I get kicked out?
I wouldn't be considering grad school if I worked for a mainstream journalism outlet. Journalists and P.R. people tend to believe that real learning happens on the job, and people with advanced degrees use education credentials to hide behind the fact that they're not very talented. In the communications field, there is some sad truth to that statement.
Here's the dilemma, kittens. I have chosen to make a career out of working for the public sector. Government- and university-types love advanced degrees. It's difficult to advance without "M-something" or "Ph.D" behind your name. I'm not arrogant enough to believe I have nothing to learn, but I believe the skills I need to improve are best learned through experience, not studying a theory from some textbook. Am I selling out by doing something I'm not enthusiastic about, or am I being smart and realistic?
Who knows, maybe I'll love being a student again. That's what I'm hoping for anyway.
Wednesday, June 21, 2006
Wednesday Wanderings of the mind.
- My friend just dropped $20,000 on a new car. Its an HHR and I think they are as ugly as sin. And he color is nto that great -- like a tomato red. How do I show my enthusiasm toward it, when I think it looks like a pregnant rollerskate?
- I'm really diggign some music these days.
- Listen to "Boston" by Augustana. Download it, check it out on myspace or purevolume.com -- it will make youhappy and sad at the same time.
- Also, check out Jack's Manequinn. They are fronted by one of the guys who used to be in Something Corporate. If you dig piano-punk, you'll love this. Try "Bruised" "Mixed Tape" and anything on this website: http://jacksmannequin.com/indexc.html
- The markets suck these days. I won't even go there. Volatile is an understatement.
- I ate potato salad for the first tiem in 17 years this weekend. Not bad, but it was a different type with bacon and ranch something. Good stuff
- I love the College World Series. It turns me into a 7-year old kid again. Even if I don't get to games. the opening ceremonies rocked. Literally. The fireworks were the best I've ever seen and YellowCard played a free two-hour concert. Good stuff.
- I have lots of left over beer from our BBQ. What to do.
Tuesday, June 20, 2006
Thursday, June 15, 2006
The Jazz in June festival is one of the reasons why I love summer and I love Lincoln. It's an event held every Tuesday night on the green space behind the art gallery on campus. For two hours, 7,000 people show up to listen to music, socialize, or just relax. My friends from high school started going to Jazz in June a few weeks after I graduated. Some of us are still going, and along the way, new friends have joined the tradition.
Ellie is one of my original Jazz in June buddies. I was starting to introduce Ellie to our friend Melissa, but they stopped me and told me they already knew each other from somewhere else. Ellie and I are constantly finding out that we have some of the same acquaintances, and we've never met them at the same time or place. Ellie's theory is that our overlapping social circles prove that we have a lot in common and are drawn to the same types of people. In other words, we're not friends JUST because we shared similar experiences growing up (though that's a nice aspect of our friendship.) We could've parted ways after high school, but something bigger than a shared experience holds our friendship together. I thought it was a nice theory. I don't think it holds true for all my older friendships, but I see where she's coming from.
To the 20-somethings feeling lost: Sometimes you have to figure out what you DON'T want in order to discover what you really are looking for. This lesson is very applicable to dating and career choices. :)
I just finished reading I Am Charlotte Simmons, a book about a girl who is academically brilliant but is in way over her head socially when she goes to college. It's not as fluffy as it sounds because it addresses a ton of sociological and political issues. It also took me 10 days to finish because it's 638 pages and the writing is incredibly descriptive, which meant I needed to take a break after about 45 minutes of reading. Anyhoo, has anyone else read this? I want to discuss this with someone other than reviewers at Amazon.com. I suppose it could make some thought-provoking blogging material. :)
Tuesday, June 13, 2006
So I intend to stay in tonight... designing my masterpiece mosaic project that has no foreseeable future, and at the same time waiting for someone to IM or call with plans. I can no longer comfortably invite myself into activities for fear of not being wanted. But at the end of the day I just think about how berries were on sale at the grocery store yesterday, and all the world feels exactly as it should be.
Friday, June 09, 2006
1. went to numerous baseball games to cheer on Chip and his teammates.
2. been working at the Beaver pool, putting up with obnoxious children and a lazy manager, and even though I'm right next to water all day, I still haven't swam.
3. visited/stayed with Hayley in her new apartment four or five times.
4. read three books and started on a fourth.
5. went to one of Margaret's softball games and had to sit by her dad because there was no one else there to sit with.
6. done other mundane and boring things that I won't list for fear that you may keel over and die from boredom.
After I've made this list I have to say, I sure hope some more exciting things happen to me this summer.
Thursday, June 08, 2006
So I got on MySpace last week and hooked up with a bunch of old high school friends I haven’t seen in like 9 or 10 years. Long story short, maybe its my connection back with them, marrying off all of our friends this summer, or just that I am feeling philosophical, but I started thinking about “the next step.”
Yeah, life is all about looking off into that great abyss and trying to figure out the next step. See, that was blatantly stolen from a movie called Garden State, but where I am going is all from my own head.
What I am really thinking about these days is comfort. Hear me out. Five years out of college, ten years out of school is an easy time to be comfortable. Comfortable with routine, habits, being in the real world, whatever your next step holds.
But I am starting to wonder if people get too comfortable. See, it’s easy at this point in your life to turn your back on things because you are comfortable. Forgetting your roots, ditching some of your friends, putting your faith on the back burner – all because this thing we called “life” is going well.
Well, think about what happens when you are in a really comfortable spot for too long. Something like your leg or arm falls asleep and gets all numb and tingly. And when you try and do something immediately after, it is painful pins and needles, and you can’t walk well or really use the limb.
What I am getting at is that it is easy to get comfortable in life and routines. So shake it up – it is Ok to be comfortable with things, but make sure you are adjusting and still doing something other than be comfortable, or you may start to get numb. And nobody wants to be numb. It sneaks up on you because you don’t really realize that your arm is asleep until you try to move around.
So either this metaphor is spot on and brilliant, or I lost you around the second paragraph. Either way, keep your eyes open and look for the next step.
Wednesday, June 07, 2006
Besides adjusting to the apartment I've had to adjust because this is my first summer away from home. You'd think that after living in the dorms for two years and being in school that I'd be used to not being at home, but since in past years I have so many wonderful memories of summers at home, it's been quite a time. Thankfully Lindsey comes into Lincoln quite a bit, Ashley and Andy are in Lincoln so I have workout/social buddies, and a lot of my friends stayed in Lincoln too. However, I do find myself wanting to go home quite a bit still, but I'm sure with time that'll pass.
Today I have my final for my Chemistry class and I'm looking forward to having a bit of a break from school. Oddly enough, I really liked this class though, so I might be a bit sad. I have worked hard in this class and for once it will show by my grade, which is normally not the case since I'm not a genius. I also start my new job tomorrow which is at a physical therapy clinic. I'm pretty excited even though I'll probably be doing mostly receptionist stuff, but at least it isn't 8 hours at a desk (sorry Ashley :( ) but only two hours a day. It will be nice to start making some money!
Now, I have an assignment for all of us. Let's tell each week if we did something that was extra fun or summer related so that I know that we're all taking advantage of it being summer and hot! Here's my list from the past 2 weeks:
1. Catching up with high school friends and our foreign exchange student from senior year
2. Making homemade ice cream and apple crisp with Shannon and Chase and sitting on our balcony under the stars eating it (my priest friend)
3. Having friends over to our new apartment and making lots of taco dip and playing in the pool at 10 at night. Chickenfights were DEFINITELY involved!
4. Going to baseball games with Lindsey to watch her boyfriend and my old friends from high school play.
5. Getting coffee and swinging in the park until 11:00 pm with one of my friends while talking of highly intellectual things. (Pretty impressive huh!)
6. Lastly, going for runs on the trails nearby and playing tennis with Ashley and HORSE with Ash and Andy. Exercise is the best in the summer!



